I apologize for being so late to posting today! The first of the month is usually when I do the big grocery trip, you know the one… the Costco trip. That, combined with the fact that the toddler boy woke up in the middle of the night and couldn’t go back to sleep until he slept in our bed, causing Taylor and I to have a restless night’s sleep… needless to say it’s been a day. Any other week this scenario would cause me to groan at the long day ahead. I would be predisposed to not have a good day. My mind would be made up, and I would be in a grumpy mood all day. The phrase “someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed today” is all too common on days like these.
The past few weeks Taylor and I have been putting into practice the exercise of waking up early and getting up together, and the simple act of getting up early has shifted my mindset to be one of positivity and productiveness. Even if I had a rough night, I will still wake up early and try to get ahead of the day. This is one of the ways you can make today an “A” day… the best of the best.
Charles R. Swindoll once said, “life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it”.
How true! We are in charge of our emotions and our attitude, so we can turn them around in an otherwise negative situation and look at it in a positive way… with a glass-half-full mentality. What can you do today to make it the best day ever? What needs to happen that you can control to make your day 100% great? An “A” day? For me, it’s waking up early with my husband and spending some time together. For you, it might be something totally different. That’s okay! It’s going to be individual to you. Let me tell you about my experience in hopes it would give you inspiration to make your days “A” days.
I’ve always been a night owl and not an early bird. Anyone who knows me personally knows that if I get the chance to sleep in, I will most likely always take it. I started to feel a little out of control when I would wake up at nine or ten in the morning… half of my morning had already slipped by. Taylor’s job requires early hours, which means he needs to wake up and get going much earlier in the day than I’m used to. It’s fine for him because he is definitely an early bird, he likes getting up early!
We sat down a few weeks ago and touched base to catch up on how things are going in our lives, like we usually do, and discussed how we can make our days even better. We talked about how we don’t get a whole lot of time to ourselves, quality time just Taylor and I without our son. We needed more time to ourselves to connect and really put purposeful time and effort into our relationship and our marriage, so we committed ourselves to waking up in the morning together. It was a struggle at first for me… I was tempted to zombie out of bed and curl up on the couch instead, but that isn’t purposeful time.
In the beginning we structured our time so that we wake up at 6 am when Taylor’s alarm went off, got out of bed together and drank our coffee on the couch. The first ten-or-so minutes of our morning is structured “no phone zone”, meaning we aren’t mindlessly scrolling through our phones first thing when we get up. We are purposeful in conversation together. In this time we can talk about anything: our day ahead, how we slept, and most importantly, how we can make our day great. Taylor and I frequently ask each other, “what can I do today to help you?”. I like making a habit of asking this question because it reminds me that we are a team.
After we get dressed and Taylor leaves for work, I spend that time before my son wakes up to look ahead at my plans for the day. I make my to-do list, finish my coffee, and spend time with the cats. I’ve actually enjoyed the alone time I get in the morning! It gives me a chance to fully wake up and finish my regular morning routine before taking care of someone else’s needs. Some mornings I’ve even been so motivated to take morning walks!
By waking up early and spending purposeful time in the morning, I’m setting myself up for success for the rest of the day. Spending time with Taylor and really focusing our energy on making the day great is a big step in making the day an “A” day. Focus on one day at a time. What can you do today to make today great? Don’t worry about tomorrow, or next week, just focus on today. Remember, “life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”.