365 days doesn’t seem like a very long time…
Until you start to realize what you can accomplish in that one year. To think that 365 days ago my husband and I were just starting to unpack our boxes from our move from Seattle to Boise. We had no friends and no family that lived near us. It was just us embarking on a new adventure together. We had no idea what was in store for us the year that followed. We officially moved to Boise one year ago today and I can already look back on that day as a milestone and launching point for our future. Moving to Boise has been the best thing that’s happened to me.
I’m not going to lie: it was really rough the first two months or so of living here on our own. Think about it: I’m home alone with my baby, stuck inside a dark apartment in the middle of winter, no friends or family to socialize with, while Taylor is busy at work. I used this opportunity to get to know the city a little bit. I took some drives around town and visited a few parks while I could. I also became quite familiar with my neighborhood and area of town by occasionally going on morning walks.
I was desperate to make friends so I went to the public library for those toddler story time classes. It felt even more isolating when I didn’t feel welcome because it seemed like all the other moms had cliques and weren’t interested in getting to know me. It became easier and easier for me to make excuses not to get out of the apartment. But the more that I stayed inside, the more unpleasant and irritable I became. I missed having the convenience of family being a fifteen minute drive away.
Prior to moving, Taylor and I talked about what would be most difficult for us during the transition. I already knew feeling isolated would be a struggle for me, but I wasn’t prepared for how much of a struggle it truly was. I didn’t really know it at the time either, it was only until I was reflecting about that short season of life that I saw that I was really struggling. I think it was easy for me to push it under the rug because I had things to be distracted by: I would write for my blog, go explore the city, and even take ice skating classes! But I wasn’t my usual happy and bubbly self.
Once we established ourselves in a church we liked and knew we wanted to be there long term, my energy and efforts shifted to building relationships. We got plugged into a small group right away and everyone in that group was so welcoming and friendly, they genuinely wanted us there. It was really encouraging to have budding relationships with like-minded moms in the same boat as me. I felt valued and included in that group.
The thing I looked forward to the most in this season was visits from family. If you remember I had a trip to see family back in January, and then we went back all together in May. My sister-in-law has stayed with us on a few occasions, and then my parents came out for Mother’s Day weekend. This summer alone we saw my sister-in-law, mother-in-law, my sister, and Taylor’s grandparents! I remember it was so exciting yet nerve racking when we hosted family at our own house for the very first time. It felt significant in the fact that we are showing the life that we have started for ourselves in Boise. In a way I wanted to prove to everyone that we can flourish on our own. I remember the feeling of validation when everyone who visited us this year and saw the life that we are making for ourselves had nothing but positive things to say.
All in all, the move has brought nothing but positive change to our lives. I have been in a season of reflection the past few weeks, just looking back at where I was this time last year. We were emotionally desperate for some change but we were willing to make some sacrifices for the long term implications for our family. I even have been looking back on my blog posts right at the beginning of this journey and I’m amazed at how my emotions changed over time… being able to see that through my blog is so eye opening! As this season of transition has come to a close, I can confidently say that I am launching in a direction of life that holds lots of potential and growth for our family. Regardless of where that road takes us, I am happy that you are following along with us. Thank you.
P.S: I have made some updates to the blog website: I refreshed the theme and changed the layout of a few pages. Go ahead and look around the site and let me know what you think!